AI, Sex & the “Technosexual” Era: Kaamna Bhojwani on Love, Shame, and Robot Romance

AI boyfriends, VR bedrooms, and relationship “training wheels”... how AI is reshaping intimacy, why shame still runs the show, and how to use tech as a tool (not a trap).

Dating apps felt disruptive—AI companions are a whole new planet. In this candid conversation, Kaamna Bhojwani - sexologist, Psychology Today columnist, host of Sex, Tech & Spirituality  explains what it means to be “technosexual,” why some people say an AI boyfriend is “better than nothing,” and where things tip into addiction, isolation, and bad incentives. We get practical too: using AI for sex education, role-playing tough conversations, closing the orgasm gap, and building the three C’s of lasting connection: communication, creativity, and—yes—cunnilingus. We also hit data privacy, attachment styles, teledildonics, VR, and the coming wave of humanoid robots. Tool, not replacement—that’s the mantra.

What we cover:

• Technosexuality 101: integrating AI into personal and interpersonal life without losing the plot

• AI companions: who benefits, where harm starts, and why “better than nothing” is the current bar

• Shame, culture, and intimacy: how stigma shapes behavior—and how to unlearn it

• Education > Porn: using AI for safer, smarter sex ed with bias checks

• Tools & toys: VR fantasy spaces, teledildonics, and bio/AI devices e.g., Lioness that help you learn your body

• Communication boosters: rehearsal with AI role-play, prompts, then put the phone down and connect IRL

• Data privacy: what these apps collect—and why you should actually read the T&Cs

• Spirituality & self-knowledge: guarding the human parts algorithms can’t replace

  
  

Guest
 Kaamna Bhojwani — Sexologist & author; Psychology Today columnist Becoming Technosexual; host, Sex, Tech & Spirituality
 IG: @kaamnalive • LinkedIn: Kaamna Bhojwani.  https://www.kaamnalive.com/ 

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This episode of The AI Download was hosted, created, and executive produced by Shira Lazar. Executive Producer Michele Musso, Creative Director Nadia Giosia with Mint Labs. Music by PALA, Catalina Coastline (licensed under Boss Soundstripe Productions by BMI). Produced by Musso Media. © 2025 Shira Lazar. All rights reserved.