Rising from the Ashes: Embracing Resilience after Narcissistic Abuse: Tina's Story

In this episode, Laura is joined by fellow survivor Tina, and they have an emotional discussion about overcoming narcissistic abuse. Tina is a mother of five young men and a grandmother to 28 babies. She is a published author, a motivational and inspirational speaker, a minister, and a serial entrepreneur. She is the founder of a non-profit organization that assists at-risk youth whose parents are incarcerated. Tina is also the founder of a women's group on Facebook called The Woman Restored which helps women who have experienced trauma in their lives from childhood or being in a marriage with a narcissist, coming together to find support, share testimonies, inspiration and encouragement through their healing journey. She loves arts and crafts which is part of her therapy. Tina loves to cook, bake, sing, fish and be next to the water which is a form of therapy for her. Tina recounts ignoring red flags in her relationship, discovering her ex-husband's shocking secret HIV diagnosis, and surviving escalating physical violence and manipulation. She shares her experiences of trauma and betrayal, from the feelings of entrapment to the courage it took to break free finally. Laura and Tina explore the importance of support systems, self-love, and setting boundaries on the healing journey. 

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[00:01:10] Tina's background

[00:03:42] Impact of childhood trauma on relationship choices

[00:06:23] Importance of vulnerability and sharing

[00:07:18] Uncovering a life-changing secret

[00:10:02] How Tina broke free from the toxic pattern

[00:16:06] Red flags and manipulative tactics employed by narcissistic partners

[00:20:06] Emotional impact of betrayal and trauma on survivors

[00:22:06] Challenges of navigating denial and self-preservation in toxic relationships

[00:24:06] Tina’s experience seeking validation and support after betrayal and abuse 

[00:26:02] The courage and resilience required to break free from toxic dynamics

[00:28:02] The power of speaking the truth and setting boundaries in toxic relationships

[00:32:06] Manipulation and control tactics employed by narcissistic partners

[00:36:02] Confronting toxic patterns and seeking support

[00:38:05] Seeking validation and overcoming gaslighting

[00:44:09] Confronting betrayal and embracing healing

• No matter how much or how hard you think you can love this person, it's not going to change. He has to change because he wants to change, not because you want him to change.
• When you feel like you're about to make that wrong choice, that wrong move, you call a sister up and say, hey, this is where I'm at right now. I need somebody to pray for me.
• Things that I was going through, I couldn't talk to nobody. So, whatever I was dealing with with myself on the inside, I was running track and being able to run. It helped me to relieve the pressure.
• When somebody gets upset, when you ask them a question, you know that they're hiding something.
•  I know our community has an issue of going to therapists. We don't want to go to therapy because we think in our minds that it's being weak to say, Hey, okay, I gotta have to go through therapy. I need help. And so, well, that's why many of us walk around and are broke. And that's why I walk, or I had walked around broken because I didn't go to therapy.

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BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

Tina’s The Woman Restored Group on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/1957575741260224

Tina’s Toxic Childhood Stress book: https://a.co/d/6sPB5Gh

Tina’s Book God Allows U-Turns a Woman's Journey: True Stories of Hope and Healing: https://a.co/d/3gB4NmH

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