Tell Me About Your Mother

In this fiery and insightful episode of Tell Me About Your Mother:

• Evan and Melissa respond to the backlash after their viral EMDR TikTok clip (24k+ views).
• They clarify what EMDR is actually doing in …

In this episode, we dive into a fresh look at EMDR therapy and how new research reframes it as “working memory therapy.” We explore the cultural differences in how trauma and sexuality are discussed …

Sandra Killebrew is a high-conflict couple therapist with a boutique private practice in Tacoma, WA. She offers therapy intensives for couples in addition to weekly therapy. She likes to get on her s…

• Evan shares a personal story from a therapy group where power and bias were misused
• How therapists can be abusive — even to other therapists
• The danger of bringing personal values, beliefs, or shame ag…

Evan and Melissa do a brief review of the Netflix show "Adolescence," mostly focusing on the third episode and the intervention strategies of the Forensic Psychologist. 

• Foresensic Psychologist began …

• The Gloria videos (therapy session videos from the 1960s)
• Working with the adult self
• Psychogenic seizures
• We are NOT neurologists 
• Social contagions 
• Conversion disorder 
• Wim Hoff breathing
• Clients finding…

• Just because you can ask a pointed question doesn’t mean you should
• The analogy of an attic with boxes representing emotional memories to categorize minimized, avoided, or displaced memories
• The need t…

• Melissa and Evan share their past experiences with unspoken agreements in relationships 
• Passing off anxieties to partner to resolve insecurities 
• Finances are a common reason for divorce
• Unspoken agree…

• "Christian Counseling" directly opposes the ACA Code of Ethics
• Counselors' political biases creating division with clients
• The new-age drama of "right and wrong think"
• Therapists should not be truth-see…

• Faulty torture tactics in the Iraq war
• Carl Jung's Devouring Mother Archtype
• Barriers when applying boundaries to parents
• Parents of children with addiction feel a sense of closeness in crisis 
• Internal …

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Evan and Melissa explore how clients have been their greatest teachers. Topics also include:

• Negative attribution styles 
• Evan and Melissa discuss what they view as their greatest accomplish with a cli…

Evan and Melissa discuss the nature of recovering from codependency, its benefits, and challenges.

• Finding recovery from codependency or other mental health struggles 
• CODA a 12-step recovery program f…

Evan and Melissa discuss the vagus nerve and its implications in emotional regulation and treatment.

• 3 stages of polyvagal theory
• Technology outrunning our limbic systems evolution
• Anxiety tension and f…

Evan and Melissa explore the often deductive and maladaptive conceptualizations pop psychology shares on social media and its negative consequences. 

We plan to make this a series since there's a lot …

Evan and Jamie Kay meet and discuss the healing, reflective, and connecting elements of songwriting with the writer and its audiences. Jamie has written over 300 songs in the course of his 50 years o…

Evan and Melissa discuss clients' perspectives that therapists have super powers, how being seen in a raw, deep, meaningful way can at times feel like voodoo magic. 

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Evan and Melissa answer an audience question regarding intellectual defenses in session. "How do I get my therapist to become aware that I am using my intellect to deflect from emotional vulnerabilit…

Evan and Melissa explore how intellectualizing stories serves as a protective distancing from emotional exploration, expression, and healing.

• Implicit memory healing
• Bilateral stimulation 
• CBT often ine…

Evan and Melissa explore the ways in which clients use intellectualism as a means to conceptualize emotional memories to maintain safety. Topics also include: 

• Emotional attainment
• Maintaining an obser…