Sex and Having Professional Joy Over Jealousy

We do it, we do it and we hope we do it well (shout outs LL Cool J), but we don’t talk about it. Sex plays such a massive role in our lives but there’s so much damn shame and secrecy and limiting beliefs about our attitudes, experiences, and wants when it comes to sex.

That’s why I loved speaking with Dirty Lola, someone who has blazed a trail by combining entertainment with useful information helping people with their sexuality knowledge. She is a sex edutainer, speaker, and self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as co-host of New York Magazine’s The Cut’s “Sex Probz” web series, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. We dive into her many creativity and leadership lessons of building a platform and show including:

• The coping mechanism of fantasy and creativity for dealing with trauma

• Building a career with a high school diploma and not finishing college 

• Why you should create regardless of if it’s going to blow up in popularity 

• Knowing when to take advice and when to ignore that shit when building your ideas 

• The power of your personality when creating a platform 

• How to get over envy and jealousy of other people’s careers through professional compersion (yasss)