Strong Dads - Moving on after divorce - Diesel Update - Episode 110

Divorce is hard!  It is hard on everyone involved.  That is why we want to do everything possible to not get to the point of divorce.  Doing things like premarital coaching, making sure to be equally aligned in faith, and establishing common values to live by are critical to preventing divorce.  

However, the reality is that divorce does happen.  Immaturity, selfishness, arrogance, and a host of other variables come to rest only making the marriage weaker and people begin to get hurt.  This hurt will alter the life path of the people involved.  When we are hurt, we must heal, and healing can be done well or not.  In order to heal, a wound must be stabilized and protected.  Whether we are talking about he healing of a broken bone or the people involved in a divorce.  Healing done well is essential to living well after the wound is inflicted. 

This show revisits a guest that was on Strong Dads nearly two years ago, Derek Fee.  At the time of our first show Derek was just separating from his wife after he had walked out of the marriage and into an adulterous affair. Initially, Derek would rationalize his behaviors and even attempt to blame his actions on others.  But soon Derek recognized that this was the work of a boy and not a true man of God.  Derek began to seek counsel and understand all that was at stake.  He began to confess and seek forgiveness from his wife and family.  At times he even thought there may be a chance of marital restoration.  But as time passed, he realized the marriage was not going to be restored.  

When Derek reflected on the damage he had created he had to make some decisions on what healing would look like and how he would go about the actual process.  This show reveals what Derek and many men discover about themselves when they go through this kind of healing.  His eyes become more wide-open to his assumed past ways of living.  He sees what his actions have led too, but more importantly, what he can do to change his future.  Derek's walk is simply that, a walk.  A slow, but purposeful walk of re-establishing who he is, who God is to him, and what he wants to be as a man, father, and maybe husband.  This is a story of growth and healing after a self-inflicted wound.  

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