74. Part 1 | Choosing Her Own Way: Dr. Alexandra Stockwell on Motherhood, Marriage, and the Life She Built Beyond the Script

This one’s for the woman navigating the messy middle of ambition and alignment.

In this deeply personal conversation, I sat down with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, physician, intimacy coach, mother of four, and one of my own mentors, to talk about what happens when your identity evolves in ways you didn’t plan for… but needed.

She shares what it meant to trade hospital hallways for nesting at home, how being visibly pregnant in med school almost made her fear expulsion, and why a vasectomy reversal after training wasn’t just about adding more kids but about honoring the full, wild truth of their family story.

Together we unpack:

• The invisible shifts that happen when you go from doctor to mother—and how to stay rooted in yourself through it
• What it looks like to build a life that’s deeply aligned, even if it doesn’t follow a traditional timeline
• The marriage lessons that unfolded through sleep deprivation, separate bedrooms, and fourth-year rotations with a baby
• Why her childcare choices were more about humanity than perfection and how that changed how she led at home

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell moved through uncertainty with curiosity, not panic - slowing down, shifting gears, and questioning the “shoulds” she once believed.

If you’ve ever felt torn between your professional identity and the softness of early motherhood or wondered how to stay whole while navigating both, this episode is a reminder that it’s okay to rethink your timeline, honor your pace, and trust that an unconventional path can still lead to a deeply meaningful life.

✨ Press play to hear her story.

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