Step9: Making Amends. (Part 2)

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This is the part of this step that is absolutely made for my two archenemies, Mr. Ego and his sidekick, Master Rationalization! The questions I must ask myself are the following. Will I truly feel that making amends to that person will do more harm than good (for them)? Or am I simply trying to protect myself? This can be a gray area but, if I truly am concerned, (for the right reasons), then I probably should eliminate that person. There might be a way to make amends anonymously. In any event, amends must never be such that, by dealing with my shortcomings, I cause even more harm to another. I may as well just add them back to my list!

Notice, this part of step 9 does not say anything about ‘injuring me’. I am not approaching those on my list in a groveling way. I am approaching them with the Power of my Holy Spirit at my side, knowing I shall remain strong, yet understanding. I will tell them I have had certain issues; I am sorry if I hurt them, and I am willing to do whatever I can to help make things better. Be cognizant of the effect your words have had and take it from there. It could be anything from, “Go away and don’t ever come back”, to, “Lets have a cup of coffee and talk”. Either way, you have done that instance of the step. Thank God for the strength he has provided, and move on.