Step #9 – True (Spiritual) Grit (part 2)

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Here we are at part two of step number nine. To refresh your memory, step nine is, “Made direct amends to such persons wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others”.

So, I am looking at the phrase, except when to do so would injure them or others, as the second part of this step. Now, the key phrase within this phrase of the ninth step, is them or others. As I recall doing this step myself, I sometimes hesitated or downright avoided making amends, because I, myself, felt uncomfortable in approaching whomever it might’ve been. I got over it, with God’s help, and eventually made the amends. I realized as I was doing the step that my discomfort was not on of the reasons to avoid making amends!

There were a couple of instances when I knew in my heart that by speaking to a particular person might cause animosity between them and another. For that reason, only in those two instances, I avoided the amends process. However, I completed my list for all the other names except for two. One of the two had died and the others whereabouts is unknown to me. I am truly hoping that someday I will meet with them and fulfill be amends process.

I would like to mention here that some of you may have a difficult time trying to make amends. Some of you will face the possibility of repercussions of legal, or even criminal sort. I cannot advise you in these matters. You may want to obtain legal counsel, and/or speak with a sponsor, mentor, or clergy. Remember, ever since the second and third steps, you are working with the power and support of God and your Spirit. I hope you are able to put yourself in God’s hands.