6. Midlife, Monogamy Options, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Lauren Hayes

In this episode, Jules and Michele sit down with relationship coach Lauren Hayes to explore the world of ethical non-monogamy—sexuality, clarity, and companionship beyond monogamy. Lauren pulls back the curtain on how she and her husband transitioned into the lifestyle, emphasizing communication, emotional maturity, and the theme that “pleasure is a practice.” This spicy chat dives into handling jealousy, setting boundaries, preserving emotional sovereignty, and why many enter non-monogamy not to repair, but to enhance an already strong connection.

Questions Answered in This Episode:

• What is ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and how does it differ from swinging or polyamory?
• How did Lauren and her husband begin exploring ENM, and what prompted the shift?
• What groundwork—like communication and trust—is essential before starting this journey?
• How do couples handle jealousy and emotional complexity along the way?
• What’s the difference between “full swap” and “soft swap,” and how do health and safety factor in?
• How do emotional sovereignty and self-awareness support healthy non-monogamous relationships?
• What role do agreements, boundaries, and ongoing consent play in navigating ENM successfully?
• How do families, social circles, and stigma impact those who enter the lifestyle?
• Why do many spouses actually grow closer and feel more empowered through non-monogamy?
• How does viewing ‌pleasure as a practice apply not only to sex, but to life and midlife well-being?

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