Because of our activity all day long, simple actions seem to work smoothly, like picking up a glass of water and taking a drink – total control. This is how the illusion of control keeps getting reinforced. The illusory quality shows up when we can’t get the results we want. Look more closely at control, at creating an outcome based on the assumption that we know what’s happening. The underlying misunderstanding is that there is someone and something else. By making that assumption, we ignore dependent origination.
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