In order for there to be equanimity or “upeksha” in Sanskrit, sometimes described as “balance”, you have to look at the imbalance. You begin to see deeply that the very people creating commotion and distress, you see that this is dependent arising happening and you give people the benefit of the doubt. Don’t try to modify anyone’s karma. You’re not going to help people by interfering with them. To meet people in their confusion, you have to meet yourself without some kind of an agenda about improving or being this special awakened person. You have to look at the suffering without grasping or rejecting. No comment! Then all of your children come into the room.
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