So You Think You Can Date
So You Think You Can Date is a podcast for those ready to do dating differently. I'm Nicki Pappas, a queer, poly, millennial mom who is dating again for the first time in 15 years. You don't have to hold the identities I hold to benefit from the life experiences I share here. Let's talk about communication, connection, and consent, regardless of what type of relationship you are in or looking for. With vulnerability, authenticity, and curiosity, I'm exploring unfamiliar terrain and would love for you to join me.
- Update frequency
- every 7 days
- Average duration
- 19 minutes
- Episodes
- 10
- Years Active
- 2025
10. So You Had a Bad Date
In the tenth (and potentially final) episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about bad dates.
Resources
"8. So You Want to Stop F*cking with F*ckboys" episode
9. So You’ve Been Stood Up
In the ninth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about being stood up for a date.
Resources
“Coming Alive” Substack
Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed…
8. So You Want to Stop F*cking with F*ckboys
In the eighth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about how to stop f*cking with f*ckboys.
Resources
Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Rec…
7. So You Want to Flirt
In the seventh episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about flirting. More specifically, flirting responsibly for the fun of it.
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"Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power" by Audre Lord…
6. So They Think You’re Intimidating
In the sixth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about when the people you are dating or are interested in dating think that you are intimidating.
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5. So You Don’t Want to Date with Marla Taviano
In the fifth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk with my dear friend Marla Taviano about *not* dating.
Connect with Marla Taviano
IG: @marlataviano and @whitegirllearning
Substack: writing whol…
4. So You Want to Take a Risk
In the fourth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about taking mindful, healthy, and safe risks from a grounded place.
Resources
“8 Sentences for Better Understanding” episode of Making Polya…
3. So You Want to Quit Playing Games
In the third episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about games in dating, why I don’t like them, and how we can quit playing them so that we can have healthier and more secure interactions.
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2. So You Need to Disconnect from a Connection
In the second episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about when to disconnect from a connection and share a few stories from my own experiences with ending connections.
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1. So You’re Going on a First Date
In this inaugural episode, we’re going to get ready for a first date. When I say get ready for a first date, I don’t mean that I’m going to give you fashion, makeup, or other beauty tips, though I co…