Most people living in Seattle in 2017 have overdeveloped “suspicion muscles” because they have been thoroughly overstimulated by news outlets, advertisers, hollywood, and the previous generation. We are “wary” of everyones motives. Our greatest fear is being duped, deceived, tricked, hoodwinked, hoaxed, swindled, double-crossed; conned, diddled, shafted, rooked, suckered, snookered or cat-fished.
So we are, by nature, hyper-vigilant to not have the wool pulled over our eyes. Because of this, if we are to neighbor well, we must pay close attention to our own motives, learning to distinguish between ultimate and ulterior, so that we can love our neighbors well, expecting nothing as result. If we don't, our lesser motivations will be sniffed out and our good intentions shut down and that would be a shame.