When Kindness Feels Like a Threat (...and How to Stop Sabotaging Connection)

Have you ever pushed someone away, even when all they offered was love?

Have you ever offered kindness… and got backlash instead of gratitude?

You’re not crazy. And you’re not alone.

In this raw and eye-opening episode, Dr. Lia Roth breaks down why some of us feel unsafe in safe relationships, why kindness can trigger defense, and how we end up sabotaging the connection we say we want most.

We talk emotional trauma, nervous system survival, toxic relationship patterns, and the self-fulfilling prophecy of pushing love away. Through the lens of Binary Relationship Theory, you’ll learn how betrayal rewires your body to expect harm—even when love is real.

If you’re tired of feeling misunderstood, shut down, or like you’re the one who always cares “too much,” this one will hit home.

Inside this episode:

• Why kindness feels threatening when you’ve been hurt
• How emotional roles keep us stuck
• What to do when your nervous system treats love like danger
• 3 real tools to stop pushing people away and start letting in real connection

This isn’t self-help fluff. It’s real healing.

Come as you are.

Because yes, you are allowed to want love.

And yes, it is safe to stay.