Ep 032: Marriage, Trauma & Tools Nobody Gives You — Except Danielle Sebastian
- Author
- Carole Podell
- Published
- Tue 08 Apr 2025
- Episode Link
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In this raw and heart-opening episode of She Takes the Lead, I sit down with Danielle Sebastian—a pharmacist turned trauma-partner support coach—to dive into the unspoken world of being married to someone with unresolved trauma. If you’ve ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells in your relationship, or you’re trying to hold your household together while your partner heals, this one is for you.
What We Talk About:
- Understanding trauma responses and what’s really going on in your partner’s brain
- How Danielle went from pharmacist to author and wife-care coach
- The moment her marriage hit rock bottom—and how they clawed their way back
- Why setting boundaries isn’t betrayal—it’s survival
- How to decide if healing together is possible…or if it’s time to walk away
- Parenting while managing triggers (yours and theirs)
- Real scripts for starting that tough convo when you feel alone in your relationship
Key Takeaways:
- Trauma responses aren't personal—they're protective.
- Love is not about being a savior. It's about being a partner.
- You don’t need a traumatic childhood to have trauma responses.
- If you're constantly trying to prevent the next meltdown, you’re not thriving—you’re surviving.
- Empathy is a tool, not a personality trait. Use it wisely and with boundaries.
Resources Mentioned:
- DanielleSebastian.com for free calls and her book
- Find her on Instagram: @danielle_sebastian_wifecare
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