How to Genuinely Apologize and Not F*ck It Up

We're human beings. Which means that inevitably we are going to both need to apologize at times, and be deserving of an apology at other points.

And we often fuck it up royally.

For a genuine, sincere apology, you have to mean what you say. Intention matters here.

A true apology means genuine care, taking accountability, identifying the mistake, followed by changed behaviour - and sustaining that change, to the best of your abilities.

You have to be willing to change your behaviour, to grow and learn from the experience.

This requires empathy, compassion and understanding how the other person feels, especially based on their unique history and biography.

True apologies are HARD. They require us to take full and total responsibility for our actions. We have to acknowledge we’ve done something wrong while also knowing that we can do better.

When we hang onto a deep belief of needing to be right, we close ourselves off from intimacy. 

When we can acknowledge and own up to our mistakes, however, it creates connection. It’s a reminder that we are all humans who make mistakes, and that act of vulnerability and courage give way to deeper connection.

Today we're talking how to apologize sincerely, and how NOT to apologize - you're going to want to pay attention to this one!

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REFERENCES

Episode #241, How to Have Hard Conversations & Improve Communication

Episode #126, Forgiveness Isn't Found, It's Earned: Doing the Inner Work

Episode #78, Sorry, But Stop Apologizing

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