A Conversation About Abusive Relationships: Shame, Victim Blaming & Shattering Myths / Stereotypes

If you’ve been listening for a while you know I talk about some pretty “uncomfortable” things around here.  Well today is no exception, in fact it may be the most uncomfortable episode I have ever recorded. Today is a conversation about abusive relationships, and I want to be clear that this episode does not have the answers, it is about opening the door to a highly uncomfortable, stigmatized, and difficult topic, and offering some perspectives you may not have previously considered.

I’ll be sharing;

• Some very startling and stark facts, research, and statistics around reported abuse globally in a variety of different demographics
• The Definition of trauma bonding and what could make it a huge factor in why someone stays in an abusive relationship
• Falsehoods, stereotypes, misconceptions and a lack of empathy I’ve heard around this topic over the years all while speaking about why we need to shatter these and speak up and out about abuse in relationships.
• And more…

Are you ready? Let’s go

For the full transcription of today's episode head over to https://emilygoughcoaching.com/a-conversation-about-abusive-relationships-shame-victim-blaming-shattering-myths-stereotypes/

References from today's episode: 

If you are experiencing abuse of any kind and need assistance please check out the websites below:

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help-2/

https://www.ontario.ca/page/get-help-if-you-are-experiencing-violence

https://www.respect.gov.au/services/

• Episode 130: Cancer, Depression, Strength: A Powerful Story of Hope and Resilience with Tom McClelland https://emilygoughcoaching.com/cancer-depression-strength-a-powerful-story-of-hope-resilience-with-tom-mcclelland/

• Episode 229: Mens Mental Health in the Workplace with Scott Baker of Baker Group AU https://emilygoughcoaching.com/mens-mental-health-in-the-workplace-with-scott-baker-of-baker-group-au/

• Episode 266: Not All Men But Almost Always with Traver Boehm https://emilygoughcoaching.com/not-all-men-but-almost-always-with-traver-boehm-of-man-uncivilized/

• Episode 117: The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-9-year-affair-lessons-in-infidelity/

Domestice Violence Statistics Globally: 

1. https://www.hrc.org/resources/violence-against-the-transgender-community-in-2019
2. https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/daily-quotidien/200909/dq200909a-eng.htm
3. https://vawnet.org/sc/serving-trans-and-non-binary-survivors-domestic-and-sexual-violence/violence-against-trans-and
4. https://www.nwac.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Fact_Sheet_Violence_Against_Aboriginal_Women.pdf
5. https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/cj-jp/victim/rd3-rr3/p3.html
6. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK499891/
7. https://www.scie.org.uk/safeguarding/adults/introduction/types-and-indicators-of-abuse
8. https://talkingparents.com/blog/july-2019/why-domestic-violence-goes-unreported
9. https://vawnet.org/sc/scope-problem-intimate-partner-homicide-statistics
10. https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS
11. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/12/us/domestic-violence-victims.html
12. https://www.femicideincanada.ca/about/trends
13. https://www.thespec.com/news/world/2017/09/15/homicide-now-second-leading-cause-of-death-for-pregnant-women-in-the-us.html
14. https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/violence-against-women
15. https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/canada-domestic-violence-double-covid-pandemic_ca_6033dadac5b67c32961f779f

16. https://time.com/5928539/domestic-violence-covid-19/

17. https://www.socialsolutions.com/blog/domestic-violence-statistics-2018/

18. https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/health-promotion/stop-family-violence/publications/intimate-partner-abuse-against-men.html
19. https://ifstudies.org/blog/eight-reasons-women-stay-in-abusive-relationships

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