Controlling your response is important, and within your control for sure.
You do have control over your thoughts, too, though. Not every thought, but most.
It's a skill you can develop. Notice the unproductive language, then actively change it. Eventually, it just becomes your default thinking.
It takes time and attention, but it works.
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Kevin Brewer
Rise Again From The Struggle