Anger, Shame, and the Stuff No One Wants to Admit

When I first quit drinking, I thought the cravings were the hard part.Turns out, the real challenge was facing what came next: the anger and shame I had buried for years.

In this episode, I get brutally honest about:

The anger I still carry at myself — for the nights I drove drunk, the commitments I broke, and the people I hurt.

Why anger isn’t a “negative” emotion, but a signal — and how true freedom lives in the space between feeling it and deciding what to do next.

How shame shows up as the inner critic, sometimes traumatizing us all over again, and why naming it is the only way forward.

The essential practice of self-compassion, not as a fluffy idea but as a survival skill in recovery.

I’ll also call back to Episode 3 on the power of sitting with it — because anger and shame can only be transformed when we stop running from them.

If you’ve ever wondered whether feeling these emotions means you’re failing at recovery, this episode is proof that you’re not.You’re in the thick of it.And the thick of it is where the real work gets done.