#157: The Lie Every Child of Divorce Secretly Believes | Jim Havens

What if your parents’ divorce didn’t just split your family—but left you quietly carrying the blame?

Most people think the hardest part of divorce is the day it happens. But often it’s the confusion, the pressure to act like everything’s fine, and the haunting thought: “Was it my fault?”

In this episode, Jim Havens shares his journey of growing up in a broken family, spiraling into destructive choices, and the night everything changed. That turning point led him to healing, faith, freedom, and eventually to becoming a husband, father of six, and Catholic radio host.

We talk about:

• Why “just move on” might be the most damaging advice you can get
• The moment Jim realized he wasn’t as “fine” as he thought
• What one lonely night revealed—and how it changed everything

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Was it my fault my parents split up?” or wondered if you can truly build the marriage you long for, this conversation is for you.

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