Ignoring the Words and Listening to Emotions with Doug Noll

Human emotions are considered an intuitive response to certain circumstances, moods, or relationships with others. For Doug Noll, emotions are cognitive constructs. He bases his affirmations on studies that explain humans are born with what is called affect labeling, which is a bio-physiological experience of pleasure, pain, or not pleasure. Every variant or different combination of these perceived feelings is attached to a word, which we call emotions. 

Doug Noll holds a JD in Law from Mc George School of Law, a Master's Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies, and a BA in English Literature from Dartmouth College. Doug served as a business and commercial trial lawyer for over 22 years before turning into leadership development, problem-solving, and peacemaking. He is the author of four books, and the last of them "De-Escalate" was the winner of the Book Excellence Award for 2017. 

Doug is the co-founder of Prisons of Peace, where he teaches inmates serving life sentences to be peacemakers and mediators. He is the Owner of Legal Pro Negotiator. He runs several online courses to de-escalate angry people, develop emotional competency, and acquiring game-changer techniques for parenting. 

In this episode, we talked about Doug's journey from being a successful business and commercial trial lawyer to dedicate himself entirely to problem-solving, de-escalating violent situations, and assisting abuse victims. Doug kindly shared tons of nuggets full of knowledge about the human mind and how we process feelings and emotions. We also talked about Doug's work in several prisons, working with violent inmates, and how they insisted and convinced him to write a book about de-escalating, which had his latest book as a result. 

Tune in to Episode 89 of Rejuvenaging and listen to Doug's masterclass about how we react to our emotions and improve our emotional competence. 

Some Questions I Ask:

• How did you make the journey from trial lawyer to peacemaker? (6:13)
• Why is anger so prevalent in the world? (19:57)
• Is there anything young parents can try to be conscientious about raising their children? (22:54)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• A brief history of how Doug realized he wanted to serve more people (6:58)
• What are emotions and how we learn to deal with them (15:38)
• Why our kids have meltdowns, and what is the best way to deal with them (23:10)
• The best way of dealing with snarky remarks in our relationships (29:53)

Resources:

• Doug Noll website
• Book: Doug Noll - De-escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less
• Book: Matthew D. Lieberman - Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect

Useful Rejuvenaging Resources:

• Website: https://www.thementalhealthgym.com/
• Book: Dr. Ron Kaiser -Rejuvenaging: The Art and Science of Growing Older with Enthusiasm
• Email: [email protected] 
• TEDx Talk: Aging Enthusiastically to Make the World a Better Place

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