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You can apply all you have learned so far in these podcasts but you can be stopped right in your tracks from making progress if you have Un-forgiveness in your heart. This may seem like a peculiar subject for a book on “Greatness”. However, it could be the most important step in your journey. In fact, if you have struggled in the past with overcoming certain obstacles in your life or felt frustrated that you cannot make progress; this chapter could change everything for you!

First, let me make something clear: Forgiving a suffered wrong does not mean that you forget or that the offender is absolved of the offense. Wrong is wrong and the pain you may have suffered is real. Additionally, the choice is yours in the end. I hope you will take the time to read this chapter all the way through before making any decisions. Choosing to forgive is more about releasing you, than it is about releasing them. 

Ask yourself a few questions and try to stay objective with your responses:

By choosing not to forgive . . .,

. . . are you suffering emotionally, mentally or physically?

. . . are you resolving this issue and making life better or bitter?

. . . is it possible that you are damaging your relationships around you due to anxiety?

. . . could you be missing out on opportunities in life or career due to your state of mind and/or health conditions brought on by the un-forgiveness?

. . . could you be creating neural networks that are eschewing your perceptions on marriage, family, jobs, politics, religion, social interaction, investments, education, confidence and other areas?

. . . finally, do you feel the offender could be lying awake at night unable to sleep and feeling tormented because you don’t forgive them? (Not likely)

SIX EMOTIONAL EFFECTS OF BITTERNESS (UN-FORGIVENESS)[1]

1.     Prolonged mental and Emotional pain

2.     Anxiety and/or Depression

3.     Vindictive behaviors

4.     Distrust 

5.     Cynicism and Pessimism

6.     Futility & Unhappiness

SIX PHYSICAL EFFECTS OF BITTERNESS (UN-FORGIVENESS)

1. Insomnia
2. Hypertension
3. Back pain
4. Headaches
5. Abdominal conditions
6. Unhealthy immune system

In 2010, Dr. Michael Barry wrote in his book, The Forgiveness Project, that 61% of cancer patients have forgiveness issues and of those, more than half are severe. He also stated, “Harboring these negative emotions, this anger and hatred, creates a state of chronic anxiety.”
Excerpts and insights* from Chapter 6 of "Your Journey to Greatness Through Routine: A Guide to Creating a Success Routine"
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• 7 Actual Case Studies
• 8 Downloadable Tools
• Assessment Questions at the End of Each Chapter

*Certain portions have been added to actual book excerpts by the author.
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Michelle L Steffes is a Certified Speaker, Corporate Trainer, Executive Coach and Author of two books: "Reframe & Rewire" (also available on Audible) and "The Machine Inside Me." Discover more and contact her through her website, IPV Consulting.