Codependency in Disguise: Perfectionism, Fixing, and the Illusion of Control

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'm only as happy as my least happy child"? This seemingly loving sentiment actually reveals a profound codependent belief that makes us responsible for others' emotions while neglecting our own healing journey. As I discovered with my own family, no amount of fixing or controlling could make my unhappy child happy—that was his journey to walk. Only when I released my grip on controlling outcomes and turned inward did things begin to transform.

Perfectionism, helping behaviors, and our need to "fix" others often masquerade as positive traits—but they're actually sneaky forms of codependency that keep us trapped in cycles of control. When we obsess over making everything perfect or rush to save others from their emotions, we're not being helpful—we're attempting to manage our own discomfort and create safety through control.

The 9-Step Soul Recovery Process offers a spiritual path out of these patterns. Through this process, we replace the drive to fix others with self-compassion, embrace new beliefs about our inherent worthiness, and shift our lens from fear to love.

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