Accountability vs Control: Supporting Without Codependency in Soul Recovery

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In this week’s episode, I sit with a heartfelt question from our community—how do we hold someone accountable without slipping into control and codependence?—and we look honestly at what true support really is, including whether asking a spouse to “prove” sobriety crosses a line; from a Soul Recovery perspective, we remember that we are powerless over other people and powerful within ourselves, so instead of policing or shaming, we practice loving detachment, clear boundaries, and compassionate curiosity—asking, “What would truly support you?” while staying anchored in our own healing. The hard truth is we cannot make anyone recover, and when we try to manage their journey it often comes from our own fear and wounds—which means it’s an invitation back to our inner work. 

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