43:Identity & Made Free with Billy McMullen

This week, Tisha was with her friend Billy to talk about struggling with identity.

She asked Billy for the three things he is grateful for. He said he is grateful for his son and daughter, the second thing is early mornings sitting on his porch drinking tea, and the third thing he is grateful for is this time because he can see a lot of opportunities. 

When you decide to grow that’s when “the bottom falls out” because you will be questioning your existence. It will feel like you’re going crazy, it will feel like free-falling, it will feel like you have nothing to lean on.

Your true identity has nothing to do with who you really are. Your true identity allows you to recreate yourself time and time again. You never should fall in love with a new way of thinking.

The real true belief if is believing that basically you can change it.

Whatever happened that you’re avoiding, sit with it. Feel any emotion that comes out of it. Don’t avoid it. It will always come back until you deal with it. Our dark side should be nurtured and accepted.

The thing that makes you different makes you valuable. 

The Joker Effect

When Heath Ledger played the Joker he took the script and went into a hotel room for about a month and he became the Joker.  He got so far into the role that he transformed his life. If he did it for an acting role, why can’t we do it with our lives for the better?  

Go so far into your character that you lose yourself and not go back to your old self. 

If you want something better in your life you don’t have to wait for it to happen, you act it right now. You have the ability to be as the Joker did and change the entire course of your life, just act the role up.

It’s easier to read a script that someone else gave but it’s hard being yourself. Change to grow. Those who succeed in life are those who are willing to change. 

Be careful who you’re around because sometimes people are writing the scripts for you. Stop letting people write your script and lead your life. Check yourself and ask yourself “What character are you playing? Do you even like this character?”

Have a desire. Be honest with yourself. If you don’t like it don’t do it, stop lying to yourself and be willing to make a change.