Your Top Toxic Traits in Relationships - 7 Red Flag Behaviors

Show Notes:
I definitely was the dependent one in relationships. That was my biggest toxic trait. Sometimes it still is.

I was a people pleaser, so it was easy to lose my identity to become whatever was needed in the relationship.

And that’s the best way to end a relationship really quick, be taken advantage of (if the person knows what they are doing), and get further away from understanding who you are & what you are worth and capable of.

Background & Review:

• Toxic traits are considered negative behaviors that can be harmful to one or both of the partners in a relationship.
• This can escalate to really unhealthy and unstable relationships that cause more damage for 1 or both partners.
• There are a number of toxic traits that can be engaged in and today we are going to chat about the ones I find most important.
• If you start to notice yourself or your partner exhibiting toxic traits, you need to take the extra step of getting help with this. Whether you speak with someone you trust, speak with a therapist or counselor, set personal boundaries, or end the relationship, you gotta do something. And sometimes you will end up doing all of these things.

List of Toxic Traits:

1. Possessiveness
   1. Partner tries to control who the other spends time with
   2. Jealous with outside people interactions
2. Lack of Communication
   1. Tension & resentment are created with no communication
   2. When conversations are shut down because they don’t wanna talk with no follow up time
   3. Refusal to communicate what’s going on, feelings, concerns, ect.
3. Blaming
   1. Partner refuses to take responsibility for their actions
   2. Blames everything that goes wrong on their partner
4. Verbal or Physical Abuse
   1. Used for control or intimidation
5. Disrespect
   1. Disregarding feelings, belittling them, making them feel inferior.
6. Dependent
   1. When someone struggles with their own mental health, they can cling to their partner for emotional and / or financial support. This is unbalanced.
   2. This is overwhelming & exhausting for the partner.
   3. Inability for them to function without their partner, leading to anxiety or desperation.
   4. Lack of autonomy happens when someone loses their independence & is too reliant on their partner. They lose their send of identity.
7. Emotional Manipulation
   1. Gaslighting 
      1. Trying to get your partner to think they are crazy and doubt their own thoughts, experiences & feelings. And to push them to feel like they are thinking outside of reality.
   2. Guilt-tripping 
      1. Pouring on the guilt when something doesn’t go their way or trying to make the other feel bad for standing up for themselves.
   3. Love bombing 
      1. Pouring on the love and appreciation in an attempt to get the other to do what they want and feel so overwhelmed with the attention and gestures that they are caught off guard to comply with whatever requests come up.

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