Your Habits Dictate Your Life - How to Create Habits that Align with Your Goals

Did you know that it's NOT our choices that dictate our lives, but our HABITS?? And for this to work the best it can, we need to figure out our habits aligning with our goals. Here are 5 tips on how to create habits that align with our goals.

Show Notes:

There was a quote I saw recently speaking on the idea that it isn’t our choices that lead us to accomplish & achieve our goals, it’s our habits. Let me read you the actual quote, because you’ll appreciate it, “People do not decide their futures; they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.” It’s attributed to Frederick Matthias Alexander, who was an author that created an educational method that broke people out of habitual habits. Amazing, right?

We often believe that our choices are what lead us to accomplish our goals & continue to grow & move forward in life, but it’s really the habits we establish in life that will be the leading force in where we end up. Our habits influence our choices, actions & often thoughts & feelings. So, if we aren’t engaged in healthy habits, we will think we are working towards one thing, when actually we are slowly moving in another direction because we don’t realize that our habits & our goals need to be aligned.

Habits are patterns of behavior that become automatic after using repetition to develop the habit. During my research, someone described it as a loop that reinforces the habit , which also makes it easier to repeat. Something happens or is triggered, you do the behavior, then you get the reward you were seeking. So, if you are feeling really upset & the habit built our of this experience is to go shopping because buying something new to distract you is the reward you’ve created, then that’s what you’ll do the next time you’re upset, despite knowing you should figure out what’s happening under the surface of those feelings or even if you know you don’t have the money to be spending on whatever you find at the store.

And since our habits are so deeply ingrained in us, the next time our brains need to make a decision, it’s easier to go with the habit that already exists then take the time to figure something else out. This is why it’s so important to identify if the habits you currently have are healthy & aligned with your goals. 

So, if you think you can carry on with unhealthy habits (that you KNOW won’t help you get to where you want to be), but still achieve everything you want in life, this might be a bit of a wake-up call for you. And I’m sure you’ve already achieved many things despite unhealthy habits. But ask yourself, “Would it of been EASIER or less struggle to accomplish those things if I had habits to lined up with those goals?”

Here are 5 tips on How to Create Habits that Align With Our Goals:

1. Identify Your Goals + Break Down Into Smaller Goals
2. Brainstorm Habits Needed to Accomplish These Goals
3. Create a Routine Around These Habits
4. Check In On Your Progress + Milestones
5. Reevaluate Your Habits & Goals Regularly

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