You Can't Make People Change - How to Inspire Change & Help Others

You can't make anyone change unless they decide to change & take action on their own. But you can still support them when they need it & inspire them to change without forcing, manipulating or intimidating them into changing. Here are 7 ideas on how to inspire change.

Show Notes:
I tell you what, there have been so many times where I have wanted to change something about someone else for the sake of their lives & the lives of those around them. And I admit that I tried hard with a few people. Trying to convince them that they needed to change and figure out how or by giving them a specific rundown on what they could do to change & become the person I thought they should be. But it never really worked. And when it felt like it worked, it was only temporary or only while I was micromanaging the situation. So really, it was useless.

This was a pointless endevour on my part and is on anyone’s part that has done this because you can’t change someone if they don’t want to change. For people to have lasting change in their lives, they first have to want to change & then make their own decision on what action to take and when to take those actions to start moving into that change. That’s it. 

And it doesn’t matter how much you love them or tell them how much better life will be better when they start doing this or stop doing that or even when they know the consequences of their actions. It doesn’t matter because they have to see these things & anything else that could happen as a real reason for them to change. They have to start believing in themself enough to want to change, to ask for help & take that first step towards actions of change. 

The only disclaimer here is that sometimes there will be situations where an intervention is needed if someone really is in danger or putting others at risk of danger.  

But despite you trying to manipulate someone into changing or threatening them to change or intimidating them into changing, it’s not going to be real change that produces growth in that area. Those that change but don’t fully commit are more likely to regress in their mindset & behavior than the typical regression when doing something new.

Here are some ideas on how you can guide someone to make changes in their life without actually forcing them to do anything:

1. Understand they are on their own trajectory. 
2. Don’t project your emotions onto them. 
3. Be there if they need you. 
4. Help them set goals. 
5. Be a good example yourself.
6. Give them space. 

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