Struggles of People Pleasers - Codependency

Hello Everyone & Welcome Back to the RealPositiveGirl Podcast!

Thank you so much for joining me again!

Happy Monday!

This week's theme for the podcast is: Codependency

Codependency is something many People Pleasers & Perfectionists will struggle with, as well as many others within relationships used to mask & distract from other things in their lives. It's also one of the most common behaviors of those raised by narcissists or someone struggling with an addiction.

Here is some information & tips to overcome this struggle & be free of depending on others for validation!

Here are some notes from today's episode:

• As I mentioned in yesterday’s episode, People Pleasers suffer greatly from being codependent because of the lack of boundaries, ignoring personal needs & the obvious obsession & need for validation from others.
• And just some food for thought, many People Pleasers start off as Parent Pleasers.
• Today I am going to break down some of the struggles People Pleasers go through & how to overcome those troubles.
• One of the first things you can do is take a breath before you commit to anything.
• When you are asked to do something, really take a moment to think about whether you actually have the time & bandwidth to commit to the request. 
• This also includes evaluating all the times you said ‘yes’ in the past when you really should have said ‘no’ & use those reflections to make better choices in the future.
• In addition to that, ask if it is fair to you or anyone else in your life if it is fair to commit.
• Work on creating boundaries. Specifically, limit your availability for others so you don’t overcommit or get in over your head.
• Adding onto that, if you REALLY want to commit to something that might be overwhelming, come to terms with the fact that you will have to ask for help & actually do that.
• One of the biggest things People Pleasers will need to do is accept any possible negative reactions or backlash from those that may be upset when you say ‘no’ to them.
• Learning to tolerate people being upset at you (which will happen no matter what) will make you stronger in the end & allow you to stay true to who you are & your values.
• Avoiding conflict will not make the situation better, but eventually worse & possibly cause you to compromise your values.
• Lastly, I want to hit on the fact that trying so hard to please everyone in your life will only lead you towards resentment & damaged relationships. If you really value your relationships, work to preserve those by creating & abiding by boundaries.

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