No One Is Coming to Rescue You - A Victim Mindset

Waiting around for someone else to take care of your problems isn't going to change anything for you, isn't going to help you grow & become stronger or make your life easier. Thinking that you need someone to rescue you will only make you weaker, actually.

Show Notes:
When I was a child, my mother (who was as drug addict and not the parent I lived with full time) would tell me all the time that she would come rescue me from my dad and that we would eventually live together. And I believed her for years because my dad was so bitter from everything happening in his life (there was a ton of sucky things that DID happen to him unfairly) and struggled with his own issues, he wasn’t the best parent. He did the best HE knew how to do, that was also wrapped up in generational pain, but it wasn’t the parent that I wanted to live with when I was younger. I wanted the one that showed me love and care and attention. And I held onto hope that she was going to rescue me from my dad until the day she passed away. And obviously, that didn’t happen.

I know this story isn’t going to translate directly to what a lot of us go through in terms of waiting for someone to rescue us from our unhappiness, disappointment, problems, struggles, fears or insecurities. But it is an example of waiting so long for someone to come along & take us away from our pain & hardships that never actually happens. Sometimes we will wait for so long, only to find out that the thing we thought would save us is no longer there and we end up having to figure it out on our own anyway.

And I don’t think we should waste our time waiting for something else to do the work we can try to figure out on our own or ask someone else to assist or teach us on. We don’t need to sit in this victim mentality that tells us that we don’t have the power to fight back & move past whatever is trying to come against us. We can push back and find our own way to be happy again or problem solve our struggles or face our fears or understand & strengthen our insecurities. We can do the work, we are not incapable to taking care of ourselves and what we do does not need to be perfect.

In today’s episode, I want to talk about how we can tell whether or not we are struggling with a victim mentality and in the next episode (coming out on Monday - Halloween!) I will talk about what we can do to shift away from victim mentality.

Here is how you can tell you are living life with a victim mentality:

1. Blaming other people for you feelings or situations.
2. Making your problems bigger than it is.
3. Thinking the world is out to get you.
4. Always using your struggles to justify your toxic behavior.
5. You think everyone is purposely trying to hurt you.
6. You find things to complain about, even when things go well.
7. You refuse to see your struggles through other perspectives.
8. Not doing anything to improve your life.

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