Judging Others Reflects Your True Self - What Your Judgments Say About You

As someone that grew up using manipulation as a way to survive my abusive life, I knew how best to use judgments. The best way to use judgments was to use those against the judger. 

It was simple. Befriend them to know who & what they were judging, then turn around & passive aggressively judge them for those same things. (Judgment: They live in a poor neighborhood. Manipulation: “Yeah, not everyone can be defined by money. Some people are just defined by hard work and respect.”) It was the way to keep people in line. How? Because people judge others based on their own insecurities, biases & prejudices.

Have you ever thought about how your judgments of others can have a reflection of who YOU are? And not just identifying you as someone that judges others & gives unsolicited opinions. No, as someone that decides to sling their own insecurities & fears at others in the hopes of fostering uncomfortable feelings, personal shame and self-consciousness in them. 

Yep, it can identify you as that.

But we don’t THINK that when we are judging other people.

We think we are just thinking something (and sometimes saying something, which usually doesn’t need to happen) about that person and having an opinion about it. But really, we are pointing out what leads to us feeling uncomfortable, uncertain, the things we are prejudice about, where our biases lie, what we have allowed to influence us the most and the importance of our own beliefs and values.

Us judging others can REALLY reveal a lot about who we are. And you might feel like that’s a bad thing, but it’s actually a good thing because it allows us figure out what needs to change & shift. When we can’t see all the breadcrumbs, we have no idea where to start or even what could be wrong. And I’m not saying that because we judge someone for something that we are a bad person. Not all judgments are even conscious judgments. We might not even realize we are judging someone because the basis for our opinion is what we were taught & how we live our life.

Let’s just jump in and go over 5 Things Our Judgments Reveal About Our True Selves:

1. Our Biases & Prejudices 
2. Our Insecurities & Fears
3. Our Personal Values & Beliefs 
4. Our Abilities in Empathy
5. Our Abilities in Self-Awareness 

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