How to Trust Your Gut - Learning to Trust Yourself

Instead of relying on others to tell you what you should do & being addicted to external validation, it's best to develop trust in yourself to know what decision is best for you, even if it turns out to not be exactly correct. Here are 5 tips on how to start trusting yourself.

Show Notes:
I used to have this bad habit of asking so many people for advice to figure out what I should do in life. 

And yes, it was definitely a symptom of being a people pleaser, but it was also a lack of confidence and trust in myself. It’s also an offshoot of external validation. And if you want to learn more about letting go of the need for external validation, listen to episode 367 of the podcast because it’s the perfect jumpstart for that.

When you rely on others to validate you, you learn to not trust yourself. You learn to dismiss your own gut feelings and trust whatever other people say because it feels safer, but also feels more reliable coming from people you allow to pass judgment on you & who’s opinions you allow to control you.

Yes, I know, that might have come off a little strong, but let’s not pretend we aren’t leaning in the wrong direction sometimes. Regardless, let’s acknowledge what is true and move forward in doing what is necessary to become our best selves in this moment.

You might think it’s easier to just rely on others to lead you in the right direction & trust in what THEY say you should do. And you’re right, it IS easier, but it also causes issues at the same time. The more you rely on others to decide things for you, the less you’ll rely on yourself to make decisions and the harder it will be to turn that train around. To get back to trusting yourself. To return to a mindset that is ok with taking a chance on your own gut/instinct and accepting the possibility that a mistake or failure might occur. 

Learning to trust yourself is integral to making decisions easier, building up your own confidence and even being trusted more by others. When others see the trust you have in yourself, it exudes confidence and belief in what you’re doing. And since you’re not questioning it, they don’t feel the need to question it. 

Self-trust also leads to stronger self-understanding. We can better understand the reasons we do certain things and become more honest with ourselves in what we’re struggling with & what needs to happen next to become better. Just as someone else decides to be vulnerable & transparent with you about something, leading to more trust because they are being authentic, it works the same way with ourselves. It’s the self-awareness that starts to question WHY we are fearful and discover what insecurities are getting in our way that will help us grow and start to trust ourselves more.

Here are 5 tips on How to Start Trusting Yourself:

1. Abide by Your Personal Boundaries. 
2. Validate Your Own Feelings & Needs. 
3. Let Go of What/Who Doesn’t Serve You or Harms You. 
4. Reflect on Times You Have Trusted Yourself. 
5. Learn from Mistakes & Failures. 

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