How to Take Responsibility for Your Emotions - You Decide How You Feel

I know it SEEMS like other people's actions & circumstances are to blame for how we are feeling, but it's really us deciding to feel that way, not the fault of external sources. But here are 5 tips on how to start taking responsibility for your emotions.

Show Notes:
One of the hot topics in my house is how you get to choose how you feel. My family is sick of me bringing this up when someone mentions that this or that is making them feel a certain way. I have NO CHILL & will remind them (as nicely as I can) that they get to CHOOSE how they feel. Rarely am I thanked for this reminder. But they get it.

But it’s tough, right? It feels like people, situations & circumstances are the ones to blame for us feeling angry, upset, disappointed, annoyed, sad or whatever emotion you end up feeling.  Even after reflecting back on what happened, who was involved & how you ended up feeling, it still feels like it’s someone else’s fault you feel the way you. But it’s not. We get to choose how we feel.

And I’m not saying it’s EASY to choose not to be offended or upset or angry or whatever. It’s not. I fail at this often. But the reason why you are feeling the way you are is not because of someone else or what happened. It’s because you decided that’s how you should or deserve to feel and/or have been trained to react that way to that type of situation. And accepting this truth can be really difficult. It’s because it can feel like life is happening to us, meaning we are the victim of the experience.

But we don’t have to be the victim if we don’t want to. We can choose to not let things bother us as much as we would like. We can choose to be a little more unbothered by the way people treat us. And we can choose to accept the truth that we are in control of our feelings as a good thing because it means we have the ability & understanding to not let those things control us.

One of the best things about accepting that we are in control of our emotions is knowing we can manage those emotions to benefit us best. When we are able to understand how we are feeling, what may have triggered us to have that response & then decide how to move forward from there, we can have healthier relationships, better communication with others, and stronger ability to bounce back from problems & setbacks. You’re better equipt to lead a more emotionally balanced life.

So today I want to share with you How to Take Responsibility for Your Emotions:

1. Honor & understand what you’re feeling. 
2. Understand how your feelings affect your life.
3. Find the balance of reacting & responding.
4. Don’t project your feelings onto external sources.
5. It’s not about what happened to you, it’s about what you do next. 

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