How to Become More Likable - Being Approachable & Friendly

There is a difference between NEEDING to be liked & wanting to be likable. One is based on wanting to develop relationships & the other is more based in people pleasing behaviors & mindsets. Here are 6 tips on how to become more likable.

Show Notes:
Let me start by saying that I don’t mean this in a people pleaser-y type of way AT ALL. There is a difference between needing to be liked and wanting to be likable.

When you NEED to be liked, you are desperate and really doing anything you can to convince and manipulate others into liking you, even if it’s just surface level. But when you want to be likable, you want to be someone that is approachable and open and truly being themselves. Being likable means you aren’t trying to be someone you aren’t. When you need to be liked, you will become whoever you need to be to get the likes. Similar to people pleasing.

It’s often not until someone else brings it up that we realize we are not as likable as we think. It can also happen when we start to realize the people we try to be friends with don’t really reciprocate those feelings. This isn’t ALWAYS true, but sometimes it is.

We might not be as likable as we think. This can happen when we have managed to gain friends and/or partners as we currently are and don’t see anything that needs changing. Or we don’t consider any behavior and/or mindset changes we have had recently and can’t see that we are different than we were when we created connections easier.

One of the biggest things I know I struggle with is Resting B Face. It’s that face where you look stone cold unapproachable and like if you do approach, it won’t be a fun time. And usually it’s not because you are angry or mad or whatever. For me, I usually look this way because I’m thinking deeply or unsure of what is going to happen next, so I don’t really have any emotion.

Regardless of what the reason is for you feeling or knowing you’re not likable, it’s something most people want to adjust so they can have relationships and live a fuller life with connections and people in it.

Here are 6 tips on how to become more likable:

1. Be interested in others genuinely. 
2. Be your authentic self.
3. Don’t be attention-seeking. 
4. Be caring to others.
5. Be confident in yourself. 
6. Don’t always be a downer. 

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