How to Ask for Help - Allowing Other People to Help You

It could be fear or our ego & pride or past experiences that prevent us from asking for help, but if we are able to push past those things, we can get the help we want & need and know that we are worthy of asking for it.

Show Notes:
I don’t do this well AT ALL. Growing up, asking for help seemed like something weak to do or when you didn’t know how to do something, which was so embarrassing because you didn’t want to get caught not knowing something. I couldn’t ask for help unless I ABSOLUTELY needed it.

Can you tell how unhealthy my mindset was growing up? But this is really how it was for me and how it probably was for many of you. 

But I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to be afraid to ask for help because it’s one of the BEST things we could do for ourselves.

The caveat is that there WILL be people that still behave the way we are used to people behaving when we ask for help, but the majority of people want to be helpful. Allowing other people to help you gives the helper an opportunity to use their gifts & talents in what they are skilled in. It’s almost a gift to the helper to have them help you, especially in a task they are really suited for based on skills alone.

So today I want to share with you some tips on the best way to get out of our own fixed mindsets & ask people for help when we need it or just want it. But before we get into that, it is important to accept that there will be times when we will experience rejection. Not everyone likes to help (and it doesn’t matter the reasons) or feels like they can’t help (this is more because of their own mindset & imposter syndrome issues), so they will say no. If, on top of the ‘no,’ they give you grief about asking for help, make sure to shut them down for projecting their insecurities onto you when they really need to focus on themselves.

Rejection is a fact of life. It’s going to happen. We can’t hide from it forever. You can try & get really comfortable in your comfort zone, but it isn’t going to keep you safe forever. There will come a time you have to step a toe out of there & you will experience it’s wrath. But it’s something that makes us stronger (I know that was cheesy, but we all know it’s absolutely true) & helps us realize that rejection doesn’t mean we failed or it’s the end of the road. It just means we either need to find someone else to ask or reframe what we are looking to get out of this request.

So let’s go over the 7 tips I have for you on How to Ask for Help from Others:

1. Start with this Affirmation: “I am worthy of asking & receiving help from others. This doesn’t have any reflection on who I am or what I am capable of doing.”
2. Don’t Get in Your Own Way. 
3. You Have to Actually Ask for Help. 
4. Find Someone You Trust to Ask First. 
5. Have a General Idea of What You Need Help With. 
6. Embrace the Discomfort for Gained Strength. 
7. Don’t Deny Someone When They Offer to Help & You Know It Will be Helpful. 

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