5 Types of Sneaky Negativity - Be Aware of What Controls You

We may think some emotions & behaviors are harmless or protecting us, but really these have us in a tight hold that we don't even realize we need to escape. These sneak up on us & control us without even knowing. Let's chat about what some of those are.

Show Notes:
Every now & then I like to share with you all short lists of emotions & behaviors we have already talked about in the past individually, but that need to be reminded of because it’s important to stay vigilant when dealing with emotions & behaviors that can sneak in & start to control you.

Plus, when you see things in a list together, you can better understand how these are related & where these can show up in your life. So, I promise this is not a copout, it’s helpful

I would say negativity can show up just about anywhere if you allow the mindset or behavior to lean too much into being a crutch or something you depend on too much or use as an excuse. Even positivity can become toxic if you use it to pretend anything negative doesn’t exist or doesn’t need to be acknowledged or use it to shame others into believing they can fully honor & experience their emotions.

So today we are going to talk about 5 types of sneaky negativity that can creep into your life & try to control you & your emotions:

1. Judgment of Yourself & Others (Being judgmental means you’re only focusing on the negative things in life. You’re also using this as an excuse to not focus on what you actually need to work on & deal with. )
2. Self-Doubt (This holds you back from believing you are capable of trying new things-which gets in the way of taking the action needed to try new thing, stepping outside your comfort zone & seeing outside your own perspective of possibilities)
3. Complaining (Complaining is the need for external validation because when you complain, you want others to agree, affirm & validate that what you are displeased with is acceptable & correct. Complaining also is NOT venting. Venting includes asking permission to share first & problem-solving after that, complaining has neither of those things. )
4. Trying to Control Everything (Control issues are common to many, especially people that suffer from perfectionism. You can only control yourself, not others or what happens to us & around us. The desire to control stems from insecurities & the fear of things not working out as planned, believing your way is the best and/or only way.)
5. Assuming the Worst All the Time (If you are always looking for the other show to drop you will never be present enough to enjoy what is happening right now. There is also the loss of hope when you are always believing something bad is always around the corner. There is no fully living life with this type of negative mindset.)

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