The Ick Factor: Is the Ick the “trait” or the “person”? (ft. Gabrielle Bergeron)

Picture this: you've connected with a good-looking person, and during your first few encounters, you begin experiencing rumbles of disgust and confusion. The exit door is near eyesight, and you just can't wait to break free and away from the date. What the heck just happened?

This, my friend, is no other than the rumbles of the ick! We hear about the ick on social media and TV shows, and it's not just millennial jargon. Man, woman, or child, we all experience the ick in various forms. Whether it's an interior signal that triggers alarms of warning or perpetual occurrence in your relationships, we have all experienced feeling "icky" about situations and people.

When it comes to dating and relationships, the ick is a huge indicator to step away and move on. But how do we decipher whether the icks are valid reasons to end a date or even a relationship? And is the ick the person or the trait?

When we get stuck in analyzing the ick, that’s when we know we are up in the mind and in anxiety. It’s not fun to get the ick, especially if you experience relationship anxiety.

Does our love language inform us why we get the ick? Love Languages show us how we receive love, but they also tell us about how we react to unwanted love. For example, if your love language is Words of Affirmation, and someone you’re not super into starts showering you with compliments, you’re more likely to get the ick than someone who doesn’t value Words of Affirmation as highly as you do.

If someone is giving us this love prematurely, it feels as though they are overstepping a boundary, or worse, manipulating their way into our hearts, hence THE ICK!

Explore How to reduce “the ick” in your loving, healthy relationships!

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