Ray's big A-ha moment occurred as a result of a tragedy where he ended up as a quadriplegic after a car accident. As he was being wheeled out of the hospital after regaining 80% of his mobility he was furious that he had to be wheeled out even though he had worked so hard to walk again.
Ray had been reading a book of quotes and this one, by Winston Churchill, was at the forefront of his mind at this moment in time: "Truth is incontrovertible, malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is."
Listen as he describes that this was the moment he died as the person he used to be and walked out as the person he had become and then breaks down why this quote became his defining moment. He stopped being known by his first name, Harold, and became Ray.
Ray explains how this is happening today and especially with the youth populations. Our teenagers are living under the labels that other people have put on them. (This came out in the recent Youth Leadership Summit and you can gain access to the recordings from that below.)
In his book, Shades of Faith, Shadows if Fear, Ray digs deeper into his experience of being paralyzed and moving out of this shadow into a new shade. When living in the shadows you see no way out and when you make the shift your energy changes and hope takes over.
Once you understand the energy the next challenge is to deliberately put it into action by changing your vocabulary. Try the exercise that Ray describes where you write down all of the emotions that you have within a given week. You only have 30 seconds to write these down and if you pause to think about it you must stop and go with what you have written down.
Once you have your negative emotion words, create 3 similar emotions that are just a little above the negative emotion. Once you do this, take away the original negative words from your vocabulary.
Question to ask: What is not great yet today?
This presupposes that something will be great and therefore you will work towards it.
Always be moving towards something rather than be stuck in a situation that you are trying to break away from.
Ray's newfound core beliefs took him away from counter intelligence as he identified a conflict of interests. He decided that he wanted to focus on where his conscience took him and this resulted in him returning to school. During this time he created a study guide based on what he had learned in counter intelligence to enable him to learn quickly.
This learning method was so successful that Ray was accused of cheating because he aced an exam! After his innocence was proven Ray was asked to share this study guide with others and this led to the creating of a study skills program. This solidified his discovery that other people could be helped, regardless of the labels that other people had placed on them.
You can contact Ray on Facebook, Twitter, on his website: Truestudyskills.com or email him at [email protected].
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