#58 Why Choose? Polyamory in Romancelandia

CONTENT WARNINGS: repeated use of the word "harem," non-explicit discussions of sexual exploitation, the potential harm and benefits of polyamory, and brief mention of cultic practices in the United States both historically and contemporaneously. Specifically @20:21-21:20 discussions of sexual exploitation from lack of consent; @24:05 - 24:35 discussion of "Ascended fellowship" and child abuse; @1:01:53 - 1:05:50 discussion of the usage of "harem" and the problematic associations with that term in romancelandia

But hey! Let's have this discussion, because we know you love a Jackie deep dive...and this time she gets to talk anthropology. Plus Jen gets to share some of her highschool trauma, I mean, ahem, memories.

@13:49 please note these practices are *illegal* even though it sounds like Jackie says *legal*

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Sources:

• "Polycule" (dictionary.com)
• "Polyamory" (dictionary.com)
• "Polyandry" (dictionary.com)
• "Polygamy" (dictionary.com)
• "Bigamy" (dictionary.com)
• "Polyandry, the Practice of Taking Multiple Husbands" (Heaphy, n.d.)
• One Bridge For Multiple Brothers, July 17, 2010 (page A4 N). (Barry, New York Times, 2010, Jul 17)
• Polyandry, or the practice of taking multiple husbands” (Inglis-Arkell, 2012)
• “Polygamy is rare around the world and mostly confined to a few regions” (Kramer, PEW, 2020)
• "A Survey of Non-Classical Polyandry" (Starkweather & HAmes, 2012)
• "What Makes Reverse-Harems Different From Harems (Other Than the Obvious)" (Ramsburg, 2021)
• "Is The Reverse Harem Trope A Hopelessly Outdated Thing Of The Past?" (Lu, 2021)
• “Is Polygamy Legal In the United States?” (Portman, ed. O’Connell, 2022)
• “A Select History of Consensual Nonmonogamies in the US” (Sheff, 2022)
• “The Truth About Threesomes, Throuples, and Triads” (Sheff, Aug. 2022)
• "Oneida Community (1848-1880): A Utopian Community" (VCU Libraries Social Welfare History Project, 2017)
• "The Rich, Sexy History Of Oneida — Commune And Silverware Maker" (wbur.com, 2016)
• “Reverse Harem Romance” (Johnson, 2018)
• "Reverse Harem, gyaku-harem 逆ハーレム" (japanesewithanime.com, 2019)
• “Otome game” (wikipedia)
• "Shōjo manga" (Wikipedia)
• The History of Anime in the USA: The 2000s" (Cooper, n.d.)
• "Why are Girls Better at Reading Than Boys?" (Wong, 2018)
• “Sheiks; Middle Eastern Representation in Romance Fiction” (Li, 2018)
• “History of Reverse Harem and Reverse Harem Garden” (reverseharem.blogspot.com)
• "Consensual Non-Monogamy Fact Sheet" (Moors et. al.)
• "When Taking Multiple Husbands Makes Sense (Dreger, 2013)
• "Plural relationships, when consensual and gender-neutral, may actually help reduce gender inequality" (lse.ac.uk, 2014)
• "Polyamorous parenting: The surprising benefits of the ultimate modern family" (Smith, 2020)