Ragebreed Against Bullying - Relationship Questions Answered

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Episode Theme: “Love or Control? JP, Karina, and the Questions We Must Ask”

Opening Statement (Karina):

“Today, we’re tackling a subject close to my heart — the bond between myself and JP, and the questions people ask about whether that connection is genuine love, or whether it has become harmful. This isn’t about personal drama. It’s about shining a light on what harm looks like when it hides inside relationships. If it helps even one listener recognize their own worth, then it’s worth having this conversation.”

Listener Questions & Karina’s Answers

🔹 Q1: Can love still be love if it also causes pain?

A: “Love should not come with sabotage, cruelty, or harm. If someone repeatedly hurts you, ignores your needs, or undermines your safety, then what they call ‘love’ is not the love you deserve. It’s a power imbalance — and it edges into bullying because constant sabotage creates heartbreak.”

🔹 Q2: Do you think JP actually cares about you?

A: “That’s a question I’ve wrestled with. He may care in his own way, but if care is mixed with control, silence, or actions that wound me, then it doesn’t matter what the intention is — the outcome is harm. True care doesn’t break you down; it builds you up.”

🔹 Q3: Why keep questioning the bond — why not just walk away?

A: “Because many of us want to believe in love. We want to believe people can change. But part of my growth is learning that staying too long in harm’s way isn’t loyalty — it’s self-abandonment. Walking away isn’t weakness, it’s strength. I have put years into try to solve this issue with him but the truth is he is comfortable at a distance where he does not have to step up and be vulnerable and part of this is his defences/lies/gaslighting because of pride and what people think but has no issue lying about us and that then taints my reputation.  So that is why I am putting the truth out there.  I am dealing with an avoidant and paranoid attachment who needs to be in control and is commitment phobic where as I just want to be with one man and settle, I believe in true love but obviously both sides need to want that, not just one”

🔹 Q4: Is bullying always obvious?

A: “Not at all. It can be subtle — emotional manipulation, gaslighting, withholding affection, smear campaigns, or making you doubt yourself. That’s why it’s so important we talk about it openly. Silence only protects the bully, never the target.”

Closing Message (Karina):

“If you’re listening right now and you’re in a situation like mine, where love is mixed with cruelty, I want you to remember: you are worthy of a love that heals, not one that hurts. Ragebreed Against Bullying stands for that truth. We speak up so silence doesn’t win.”