26: Overexplaining is a Trauma Response

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What if the very thing you think makes you sound credible is actually weakening your voice?

In this episode, the spotlight is on overexplaining and how it sneaks into everyday conversations, from patient visits to talks with friends. Six root causes fuel this cycle, including toxic thought loops, gaslighting, family dynamics, and the fear of silence. Personal stories reveal how rambling dilutes authority and leadership, even when the intention is good. The brain’s wiring for safety and early childhood patterns show why this habit is so hard to break, but there are two practical strategies that offer a way forward to stop the spiral, retrain the brain, and speak with clarity and confidence.



You’ll Learn:

• How to recognize the signs that you’re overexplaining
• Why the brain wires this habit as a safety mechanism
• The six root causes that drive overexplaining (you might have more than one)
• How toxic thought patterns set the stage for rambling
• What happens when gaslighting or narcissistic dynamics distort your truth
• Why overexplaining can become a barrier when you haven’t felt heard
• The peacekeeper role and how blame can fuel overexplaining
• Why being chatty often fills the silence and masks discomfort
• Two ways to start overcoming the verbal vomit cycle today

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction

[06:02] How the brain wires overexplaining as a safety response

[07:12] Toxic thought patterns as the first root cause

[08:04] Being gaslit or living with a narcissist

[10:57] Overexplaining as a barrier when you haven’t been heard

[12:34] Justification to prove worthiness or avoid judgment

[14:05] The peacekeeper role and carrying blame

[16:00] How chatty space-filling masks anxiety or discomfort

[21:27] Neurodivergence and traumatic brain injury as factors

[22:58] Two practical ways to disrupt and rewire the overexplaining cycle

Resources Mentioned:

How Your Birthdate Can Reveal Patterns of Challenges and Transformation with Michelle Dowker | Spotify or Apple

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