The Cure for the Curse of Perfectionism

Perfectionism is one of those flaws that we don’t really consider a flaw. In many circles, it’s normalized and even encouraged.
I used to embrace perfectionism. Now, I call myself a “recovering perfectionist.”

1. Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. That’s why it’s so hard to give up. It comes with certain benefits:
   • Perfectionism pushes you toward excellence and accomplishment. In fact, some researchers argue that there is a “healthy” level of perfectionism that is related to high standards, motivation and discipline.
   • Perfectionism is rewarded by society.
   • Perfectionism sometimes makes you feel better about yourself, albeit in small, superficial ways.
2. The downside, however, is that perfectionism comes at a steep price:
   • It’s linked with a number of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, OCD and low self-esteem.
   • At its worst, perfectionism makes you feel like even your best efforts are never good enough, which can lead to discouragement and despair.
   • Ironically, perfectionism can keep you from taking risks, learning and developing new skills due to the fear of making mistakes.
3. How I became a “recovering” perfectionist:
   • I recognized that my best efforts aren’t good enough for God, and they don’t have to be.
   • I studied the Bible to affirm my identity as a child of God.
   • I changed to a big-picture perspective that highlights purpose, legacy and faith.
   • I remind myself that “done and good enough” is always better than “perfect and never done.”
   • As a rule, I try to limit self-criticism. In other words, I choose to celebrate my wins, rather than complaining about my losses.
4. Action Steps:
   1. If you’re a Christian, study the use of the word “righteous” in the Bible. How is this word used to describe us? Why is it significant that God has made us righteous? 
   2. If you’re not a Christian, consider the last time you were tempted to make something in your life “perfect.” Brainstorm some ways to approach that situation with a “done is better than perfect” mentality. How can you handle things differently next time?
5. Resources:
   1. Article: “The Dangerous Downsides of Perfectionism” https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20180219-toxic-perfectionism-is-on-the-rise