Episode 22: Gabrielle Hartley

Practical wisdom for separation and divorce; shifting internal narratives, prioritizing positives, taking the high road, and the importance of the long view.

Length: 43:20 Timecodes:

0:43 Holding a state of being Better Apart by separating with the five pillars: Patience, Clarity, Respect, Peace and Forgiveness.

2:35 How divorce attorneys responded to the book.

5:35 Gabrielle’s work as a divorce attorney, and her experience of her own parents’ divorce.

7:40 Creating a safe environment within yourself.

9:10 Seeking help if someone is unable or afraid to leave.

10:58 Shifting your internal narrative.

12:45 Finding a counsellor or meditator to set up interim living situations.

13:44 Patience. Slowest is fastest.

17:32 Clarity. Asking for precisely what you need. Acknowledging what you brought to the table.

24:36 Peace. Reconstructing your separation/divorce as a sanctuary of possibility. Peace as a practice. Creating a mantra for yourself.

30:52 Respect for yourself and others. Creating stronger boundaries. Spending more time with things that you happy.

36:46 Forgiveness as a gift to yourself. Recognizing your own humaneness. From contraction to expansion. Acknowledging the reason you came to this person in the first place.

41:25 Masterclass based on the five pillars.

https://gabriellehartley.com/