18 Shame & secrecy (and sex!)

In the first of a mini-series about shame, we aren’t holding back! The feeling of shame has kept parts of Ken hidden from Joli for years even though we’ve been consciously working on it. This isn’t surprising because shame encourages secret-keeping.

Confidence has been masking shame in our home even with a careful eye towards it.

Shame has been showing up in unexpected spots and when it does we often feel disconnected right when we most want to feel seen and loved.

No holds barred in this episode, sexual shame has been hiding too long, so listen in if you’re someone who has ever struggled with shame or the secrets it might encourage. Ken brought his vulnerability right to the forefront this week, hoping to share a story that will help others.

Book mentioned in this episode: Dark Eros by Thomas Moore http://bit.ly/3ppVcns 

If you need some shame-work musical inspiration listen to Shame by The Avett Brothers

If you’d like to find out more about Joli’s work head to jolihamilton.com

Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube