Terri talks with Erin Levine of Hello Divorce about a healthier approach to divorce.

Show Highlights

• Erin provided her background and the trends she is seeing in divorce and how divorce has changed over the last 15 years
• Erin said that women want to feel alive and make deliberate choices; we want to live more intentionally
• Erin shared the following:
  • It takes 5-7 years of relationship trouble or contemplating divorce before a woman files for divorce
  • 75% of divorces are filed by women
  • Women want to feel alive, we want to make deliberate choices, and we want to live more intentionally
  • Women want to model positive relationships for their children
  • The divorce industry is $50B/year
• Divorce is the dissolving of the most complicated financial contract we will be involved in
• Divorce does not mean failure; a lot of relationships don’t work out; people shouldn’t feel terrible and ashamed if they get divorced
• Erin talked about how the fear of the unknown is terrifying in divorce; the fear can turn into anger and a messy divorce which can be avoided through education, self-care, and goal-setting for after the divorce
• Terri asked Erin for ways in which we can better support our friends and family going through divorce
• Erin talked about how millennials love their pets and there are pre-nups, post-nups that address this in relationships

Terri’s Key Takeaway

There are healthier ways to end marriages than in years past with a shift from attorney-centered to individually centered and leveraging the services of divorce coaches, co-parenting coaches, financial planners, and other non-legal resources. 

References in the Podcast

• Piloting Your Life: https://www.pilotingyourlife.com/
• Hello Divorce: https://hellodivorce.com/
• Divorceify: https://divorceify.com/home
• Breaking Free: A Modern Divorce podcast:  https://www.breakingfreepod.com/
• F It, Get a Divorce: The Guide for Optimists by Steven Kane: https://www.amazon.com/F-Get-Divorce-Steve-Kane/dp/1794600795/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1572114806&sr=8-3
• October Crew Chat topic on Money: https://medium.com/@terrihansonmead/piloting-your-life-crew-chat-money-beeba0ffa570
• Sluts and Scholars: Spooky Sex with Dr. Amie Harwick:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/123-spooky-sex-with-dr-amie-harwick/id1223781930?i=1000454766632
• Finding My Yum: https://www.facebook.com/findingmyyumpodcast/ 

Contact

You can purchase Piloting Your Life (the book) on Amazon at http://bit.ly/PYL-Amazon, or you can go to https://www.pilotingyourlife.com/ to choose your preferred format and retailer and see other goodies.

Erin can be reached by email at [email protected], through LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/erinlevine/ and on Twitter @hellodivorce.

You can follow Terri on Twitter at @terrihansonmead or go to her website at www.terrihansonmead.com. Terri blogs a variety of topics on Medium at https://medium.com/terri-hanson-mead.  

Terri would love to hear from you via email at [email protected].