Episode 53 – Change in Perspective: Gratitude

Kick It With Donna episode 53 – Change in Perspective: Gratitude

We all have daily challenges and the occasional mountains to climb.  How grateful are you for these?  Maybe it’s time to change your perspective.

My guest today is Margery Miller.  I went to see her for counseling two weeks ago.  She knew a lot of my background, but we dug deeper into it.  Growing up in a strict born again christian home, my mother and I had problems getting along.  Those problems were never resolved.  I saw her three times over the course of thirty five years.  I couldn’t understand why she cut me and my brother out of her life.  I spent many years resenting her and held this deep seeded fury inside me.

Margery made a real impact on my attitude by asking me if I would be the person I am today if my mother wasn’t the mother she was to me.  She made me realize that I should be grateful to her for being who she was.  I never looked it at that way.  That’s what happens when you change your perspective.  I left Margery’s house that day with a gift:  gratefulness.

We spent some time talking about other dysfunctional relationships and how to address them.  Setting healthy boundaries is key to establishing what you will accept and what you won’t.  The lines won’t get blurred if you make them clear.

Margery’s Principles:

Gratitude, appreciation and self-discipline are the keys to freedom.

Gratitude for what is as it is;

Appreciation, which enhances that gratitude and includes all the elements and individuals in the universe that brought forth that for which I am grateful; and

Self-discipline.  I pay attention to what goes in my mouth and out of my mind; in my ears and out of my mouth.