The Impact of Comparison

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts on comparison and what it is doing to us in our lives and in our business. In this time of building our businesses online, especially this year when so many people are having to continue to pivot, shift, change or completely reinvent themselves in an unknown territory, it is too easy to stop and compare your “progress” to someone else’s “perceived progress”.  Comparison is the biggest block in your progress, and you are the one who keeps putting that roadblock up. So much of my understanding of comparison comes from my learnings from Brene Brown, and her book “Atlas of the Heart” is incredible. In this episode we discuss:1) Comparison is a creativity killer.  “Comparison is the crush of conformity from one side and competition from the other - it is trying to simultaneously fit in and stand out.” It is saying, be like everyone else, but only better. ~ Brene Brown.  There is upwards and downwards comparison and both are equally blocking in our movement and success.  Social comparisons (up or down), make us feel less than, not worthy or better than or superior. All of the energy leads to the negative emotions of lack and lack of worthiness, fear, shame, anger, and sadness.  No change is created in this energy space. 2) Comparison is the thief of joy ~Theodore Roosevelt .  As soon as we fall into comparison to others, we are taking our eyes off of our own journey. We are losing sight of our own gifts, our own journey and what we are capable of creating.  We also are comparing our chapter X to someone else’s unknown chapter. When we think we know someone else’s story, I promise that we don’t.  Think of all of the things on your own journey that you don’t share with the world.

3)  The energy of comparison actually messes with our own perspective.  It takes it all out of context.  It starts with awareness and recognizing the emotions that drive us into that space in the first place. Celebrating another person’s success does not take away from your own, it actually is celebrating that another person is showing you what is possible.  If someone is triggering you in a toxic way that affects your energy, then mute or unfollow. 

4) Find the people who trigger you showing what is possible. The ones who expand you, and learn from them.  Compare yourself to past versions of yourself and find ways to honour, love and support your younger version who fought like hell to get you here. 

Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Scripting Micromind starting January 5th, 2022https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/2Q4ntxWs Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others