It’s Not The Thing, It’s What We Make Of It

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Welcome back to Navigate the Day, where we delve into ancient wisdom to find guidance for our modern lives. I'm your host, and today's episode is inspired by the profound words of Marcus Aurelius.

In this insightful passage from Meditations, Marcus Aurelius teaches us a powerful Stoic lesson: "When you are distressed by an external thing, it’s not the thing itself that troubles you, but only your judgment of it. And you can wipe this out at a moment’s notice."

This prompts a crucial question for our journaling journey: What false judgment can I wipe away today?

Now, let's get real. I've been wrestling with my recent breakup, seeing it as the ultimate tragedy in my life. But here's the kicker—I'm beginning to realize that it's not the breakup itself causing me distress; it's my judgments and interpretations of it.

I've allowed my assumptions and distorted views to shape a reality that may not be entirely accurate. It's like I'm stuck in a loop of assuming the worst, and surprise, surprise, it's becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. I need to break free from this cycle and challenge my assumptions.

One major roadblock is my difficulty in accepting that grief is a normal part of the human experience. I've been resisting the idea that facing this pain and moving on is just a part of life. Maybe it's fear or uncertainty, but I'm holding on too tightly to memories and dreams that may never materialize.

The theme of acceptance is hitting close to home this month. Accepting that I can't control everything, especially my future with Sunflower, is a tough pill to swallow. Instead of dwelling on what I can't change, it's time to shift my focus to what's within my control—my reactions and my healing.

As Marcus Aurelius would advise, I must wipe away the false judgment that I'm destined to be sad for years to come. Embracing reality, allowing myself to heal, and summoning the strength to create new experiences are essential for my growth and happiness.

Focusing on what's within my control is the key, even when faced with heartbreak. The memories will linger, and the dreams may not unfold as planned, but my reaction to these external events is entirely in my hands. It's time to accept, let go, and turn the page on this heartbreaking chapter of my life.

Join me in this journey of self-discovery and empowerment on Navigate the Day. Remember, it's not the thing, it's what we make of it. Until next time, stay inspired and resilient.

Thank you for listening and joining me on my journey of self-discovery!

Mediations and Prompts influenced from The Daily Stoic Books

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