Why We Perform in Relationships
- Author
- Theresa Hubbard and Walker Bird
- Published
- Fri 30 May 2025
- Episode Link
- https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/myinnerknowing/episodes/Why-We-Perform-in-Relationships-e33hesn
What if the safety you feel isn’t real—but a role you’re playing? In this reflective and honest conversation, Theresa and Walker explore how self worth, safety, and identity intersect in relationships at work, at home, and within ourselves.
They unpack how the roles we adopt—especially in professional or intimate settings—can protect us, but also keep us from feeling truly seen. This episode invites you to examine the masks you wear, the stories you tell yourself, and how increased awareness can lead to a more authentic and aligned connection.
What You’ll Learn
- How performative behaviors shape our relationships
- Why “feeling safe” can sometimes be a false sense of security
- What congruence and authenticity actually look like in everyday life
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Spotify Chapters
00:00 Welcome + Setting the Stage
02:05 Why We Feel Safer in Some Roles
10:17 How Intimacy Can Feel Less Safe
16:13 The Cost of Performing at Work
30:02 Clothing, Congruence, and Intentionality
46:48 Final Reflections on Self-Worth
Keywords
self worth, emotional safety, authentic relationships, performative behavior, identity in relationships, congruence
