Are you being too picky when it comes to dating or just thoughtful? Coach Rachel Simeone breaks it down

This is such a fun and informative episode for anyone who has been accused of being picky or secretly wondered if their standards for dating are too high. Dating coach Rachel Simeone joins hosts Erin Jensen and Bhavana Chilukuri to unpack what it really means to be picky and what settling feels like.

“Settling comes from a place of fear, a place (of) insecurity,” Rachel says. “The message you're giving yourself is something like, ‘What if I never find anyone else? Maybe I can't get the kind of person I want. Maybe this is all there is for me.’” 

Rachel also shares the inspiring journey of how she found true love after a 17-year relationship crumbled. Whether you're deep in dating app burnout or wondering if you’re the “single for a reason” friend, this episode will give you clarity and encouragement.

In this episode:

2:14 The end of Rachel’s 17-year relationship: “I really wanted to find my true love” 

4:21 Rachel is shocked by who she finds online: “There were just a lot of people out there — I call it ‘single for a reason’”

6:19 How important is physical attraction?

9:54 Setting your dating criteria: “The energy of too picky is very different than the energy of thoughtful dating”

13:01 Dating someone worthy who gives you butterflies

14:49 Defining dealbreakers

15:36 When does being open become settling?

18:42 Your intuition’s role

19:52 If you’re not being too picky then why are you single? Finding answers in patterns

21:27 How to use dating apps strategically and avoid emotional burnout

22:56 Rachel’s advice for meeting people in real life: “This is going to sound strange”

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Learn more about Rachel Simeone and her teachings via her website, rachelsimeone.com
Email her at [email protected]
Book a free dating strategy session via her website

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